4 Prescriptions For GOOD Behavior
Have you ever struggled with finding the right words to say to your child? Or maybe your child has started to tune you out. Do you ever feel like parenting is an overwhelming task that leaves you stressed out and exhausted? If you are feeling guilty, you are not alone.
In fact, many parents often secretly feel shame and embarrassment about their lack of control with their young ones. It can be frustrating and debilitating, leaving you feeling completely helpless and confused on where to turn for advice on how to raise your child properly with the least amount of stress.
The way you parent now is setting the stage to how your child will perform in social situations, school, and their future career. It’s critical your child learns the proper communication tools from YOU now.
With your help, your child will prosper and flourish into the bright person you know he can be.
Whether your parenting issues are occasional or ongoing, there are simple ways to make improvements
right now. Children’s personalities are in flux so there is an ongoing need to be adaptable and resourceful.
My name is Lois and after 38 years as a teacher of young children I’ve seen all kinds of behavior
challenges. After years of teaching many parenting classes I have
addressed the following questions over and over.
“Why does my child always test me?”
“How can we have a more peaceful life instead of going around in
circles with the same old issues, again and again?”
“What is the best way to work through melt downs?”
“How do I end all the negotiating?”
“What should I do when my child hits?”
Maybe you are reliving the drama of your original family. It’s human nature to repeat family patterns even if the discipline was harsh and ineffective to help you learn. Change requires a willingness to become aware of what you are doing so you can adjust your thinking and make new choices. Working toward solutions with your child is fairly easy when you learn how to approach challenges with a plan as well as the right words.
Imagine creating a “working” relationship with your child. Discipline is teaching
and there are ways to say things that allow you to make the most out of any
challenge. Consider the power of Encouragement vs. Praise. The way you give
feedback has a tremendous impact on your child’s choices. With scripted
examples you will easily learn how to recognize exactly what your child
needs to hear in order to repeat positive behavior. If you’ve been praising
and seeing your child respond, wait until you see the even more wonderful
impact of Encouragement. Using Reflective Listening and I messages will
help you to help your child build a Feeling Vocabulary that will allow you
to connect and create a bond of understanding. Understanding and
expressing feelings is an important skill needed for success in life.
As your child grows in self-expression you will be pleased to see a calmer, happier child.