Display of Inadequacy

How to motivate children? Why is it so hard to do? As parents, often times we have inaccurate and comic belief that our child will not care unless we grip their arms. However the truth is pretty simple, your attempts to encourage and motivate your kids might just be working against you. If you happen…

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Some behavioral problems in children take time to develop and also time to correct. The mistaken goal of revenge is often the outgrowth of a power struggle the child feels she has lost. There is a sense of unfairness in her mind and a loss of personal power so the child feels that she only belongs if she…

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Power Struggles: To Spank or Not To Spank

If you find yourself feeling very angry as your child refuses to comply with your plans, you are probably in the midst of a power struggle. The challenge is often to remain the Adult in this situation and maintain your calm. It especially can feel almost impossible if you are revisiting issues that seem to…

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Attention Getting Behavior

Developing positive parenting techniques requires that you cultivate an understanding of some of the underlying messages involved in your child’s behaviors. As a parent it is easy to feel responsible for the behavior choices our children make. It can be embarrassing when they are less than appropriate. Children are always experimenting and sometimes they discover that…

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I Messages

Positive discipline for preschoolers often depends on direct and honest communication. When we use Reflective Listening, we honor and recognize the child’s emotional life and assist in the development of a  “feeling vocabulary”. When we use I Messages we introduce a perspective that is outside the young child’s natural inclination to perceive. This broadens the…

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Reflective Listening: A Positive Parenting Skill

Reflective Listening, a positive parenting skill, is a communication the adult may use with the child to “reflect” back the emotion that is surfacing or that is clearly evident in the child’s behavior or demeanor. Our interpretation helps the child to learn the vocabulary of emotions which enhances their communication skills. It also helps the…

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Helping your Preschooler Through a Transition

In order to develop effective parenting skills the adult needs to be able to put themselves in the child’s place and see life from that perspective. Transitions can be very stressful for young children and this is a time when it is most helpful to have a plan. A transition is a situation when one…

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Positive Parenting Tip: Steps to Problem Solving

A great positive parenting tip is to involve the child in finding solutions to problems. A child as young as three can be engaged in the problem solving  process.   Approach the topic neutrally and in a manner that encourages discussion. An example might be, “It seems that getting ready for bed is becoming a…

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The Magic of Taking a Pause

Good parenting from the inside out develop over time and with awareness and sometimes stepping back helps you to see things in a different light and also defuse the situation. If you find yourself saying, “Here we go again!” you can rest assured that you are in the middle of a negative pattern with your child. …

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Working Through Stress

Parenting and stress are two words that inevitably go hand in hand in a parent’s life. Stress may start even on pregnancy. By the time their child is born, no parent can escape the stresses of their position.  Raising young children is often a balancing act that requires resiliency and patience. Preschool age children are changing…

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